Its easy to fall in love.

It’s hard to stay connected when everything feels broken.

Are you stuck in the same arguments on repeat?

Feeling disconnected, resentful, or just exhausted from trying to fix it all?

We get it. We’ve been there.

We know what it’s like to live in the aftermath of betrayal, distance, addiction, and disappointment. And we also know what it takes to fight your way back.

You’re not alone.

And your story doesn’t have to end here.

RefineUs is marriage coaching that meets you where you are.

This is not counseling. It’s not theory.It’s real conversations, rooted in grace and truth, led by a couple who’s lived it.

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Name the real issues (not just the symptoms)
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Have honest, healing conversations
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Rebuild emotional, spiritual, and physical connection
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Create a plan forward grounded in your faith and your reality
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Our marriage almost didn’t make it.

After ten years of marriage, our relationship imploded.

An affair.

A near-divorce.

The loss of trust, connection, and identity.

We did the hard work of rebuilding.And now, for the past decade, we’ve helped thousands of couples do the same.

Our greatest heartbreak became our greatest calling. We’re not here to fix you. We’re here to walk with you toward healing.

The Process

Six sessions. One plan. Real change.

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Discovery

We begin by hearing your story — where you’ve been, what’s hurting, and what you’re hoping for. This session is about building trust, identifying immediate needs, and beginning to map out where healing can start. No pressure, no performance — just a real conversation.

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Honesty & Grace

Most couples either avoid the hard things or explode trying to fix them. In this session, we help you create a safe space to speak honestly — without blame — so truth can begin to work in your relationship. Grace and honesty aren’t opposites. They work together.

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Identifying Core Wounds

What’s underneath the surface is often what drives the conflict. Together, we help uncover the deeper pain points, past patterns, or unhealed places that are still shaping your present. This session is all about compassion, not shame.

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Rebuilding Trust

Trust isn’t rebuilt through grand gestures. It’s restored one honest interaction at a time. This session focuses on practical, spiritual, and emotional steps that help couples reconnect and begin to believe in each other again.

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Forgiveness & Repair

Whether it’s small cracks or a full-blown betrayal, restoration can’t happen without forgiveness. This session walks you through what forgiveness really is, how to give and receive it, and how to begin repairing what’s been broken.

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Moving Forward

In our final session, we revisit your progress, clarify your next steps, and build a 90-day roadmap toward ongoing growth. The work doesn’t end here — but now, you’re not stuck. You’re moving.

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Why This Works

A male and female perspective, together, in every session.

We’re not coaching from a textbook. We’re coaching from our story.

No dragging things out for months. You’ll get tools and clarity from session one.

Rooted in Jesus. Never sugarcoated.

Brian & Jenni Clayville

Justin and Trisha were an anchor for us in one of the darkest seasons of our lives. Their honesty and hope gave us a way forward.

Josh & Lindsey Hartz

They didn’t just give us advice. They showed us how to fight for each other again.

Alix and Aaron

Our marriage was headed for divorce after being rocked by infidelity. Finding Justin and Trisha was finding a lifeline in the midst of a raging storm. Our marriage is now stronger than it has ever been.
Are sessions virtual or in-person?
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Is this for couples in crisis or for anyone?
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It’s not too late.

And you’re not alone.

If you’re ready to stop surviving and start rebuilding, we’re ready to walk with you.